Forgiveness is NOT
- Forgetting the memory of a past offense does not just disappear; the fact that you remember what happened does NOT mean you haven’t forgiven.
- Minimizing, ignoring, or denying the offense.
- Forgiveness does not mean that what happened to you was acceptable or excusable.
- Instant healing from an offense takes time: forgiveness is necessary for full healing, but healing doesn’t happen immediately.
- Removal of consequences even though you forgive someone, there may still be emotional, relational behavioral, or legal consequences for the offense.
- Restoration is when we forgive someone, there are still actions the other person must take to restore what was damaged (if possible or to begin to rebuild trust of appropriate).
- An act of grace through forgiveness we extend to others the deep love and grace God has abundantly lavished on us.
- A process as often as the offense comes to mind, we continue to lay it down and remind ourselves that we have forgiven the offender.
- A releasing of our desire for revenge. Forgiveness moves us toward a place where we can lay down our anger and resentment and begin to desire the spiritual good of the offending party.
- An entrusting of our past and future to God in faith we surrender our hurts and our heart to our Heavenly Father, who is faithful, just and good.