Dependency

Are you co-dependent? Not sure?  Hopefully, the following clues will help you determine if you are or are not or if this is part of who you are.

  • Feel guilty about others feelings and behaviors 
  • Have difficulty identifying what you are feeling. 
  • Have difficulty expressing feelings 
  • Are afraid of your own anger, yet sometimes erupt in rage. 
  • Worry about how others may respond to your feelings, opinions and behavior 
  • Have difficulty making decisions. 
  • Are afraid of being hurt and/or rejected by others. 
  • Minimize, alter or deny how you truly feel. 
  • Are very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same. 
  • Are afraid to express differing opinions or feeling. 
  • Value others opinions and feelings more than your own. 
  • Put other people’s needs and desires before your own. 
  • Embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts. 
  • Judge everything you think, say or do harshly as never ‘good enough’. 
  • Are a perfectionist. 
  • Are extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long. 
  • Do not ask others to meet your needs or desires. 
  • Do not perceive yourself as lovable and worthwhile. 
  • Compromise your own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others anger. 
  • Co-dependency can be defined as an addiction to people, behaviors or things. 
  • Co-dependency is the fallacy of trying to control interior feelings by controlling people, things and events on the outside. 
  • Too the co-dependent control or the lack of it is central to every aspect of life. 
  • Co-dependents learns to gain his self-worth through Jesus Christ. 
  • Christians the bible teaches that a person has worth simply because he was created by God. 
  • Your self-worth is not based on the work you do or the service you do. 
  • Service is to be an active choice. 
  • Co-dependents learn to act and not react. 
  • Co-dependents allow healthy Christian service to bring joy. 
  • Christian faith calls for balanced living and taking care of yourself. 
  • Co-dependents learn to choose balanced behavior and not addictive behavior and to allow others to be in charge of their own lives. 
  • Co-dependent learn to live balanced lives; taking responsibility for their own health and well-being. 
  • Co-dependents learn to help others in proper ways, by allowing others to act independently, and not making others dependent on them. 
  • Co-dependents learn to be God directed and be free from compulsiveness, knowing that God brings the greatest results.
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