What’s the Big Deal?
God desires our marital relationships to have maximum trust. He’s not trying to spoil the fun. He knows how important the trust factor is to marriage. By waiting, a couple is able to establish a foundation of trust. Consider this, if you’re dating a person who is willing to have sex with you, then you’re dating a person who is willing to sleep with an unmarried person. What makes you think when you get married your spouse still won’t be willing to have a little sex outside of marriage?
There would be no such thing as STDs if we just followed God’s plan. God obviously had some wisdom regarding sex outside of marriage. Our way of doing things has resulted in countless deaths through AIDS, and millions of people have suffered the consequences of other sexually transmitted diseases. Do you want to avoid contracting AIDS and all other forms of STDs?
Pre-marital sex builds the relationship in reverse order. We are to date the soul, and then sex becomes the celebration of our oneness through the marital covenant. We date the soul and marry the body and soul. Premarital sex inserts a false set of emotions into the relationship. And as a result, sexually active couples often think they’re closer to each other than they really are. That’s because sex is powerful and creates a false sense of compatibility when in reality the couple may be at odds relation-ally.
By dating the soul, you can first establish your friendship and evaluate whether you’re compatible for one another.